He takes me out to dinner every time we're together, and he spoils me with flowers and lots of affection. 3. Twitter. currently expecting first dc and both besotted with each other - so guess it depends how YOU feel not him. Share. He gave me a thank you card after and signed the card “love”. That broke me cause I still here, believing his action but his words said no? I feel like he is falling in love with me by certain things that he does or says but I don’t want to assume anything. One was the man I love to this day and who loved me till the day he died (despite our inability to maintain a relationship other than friendship); the second one ... well, I hope that when life stops chucking lemons at him, we'll have the chance to find out. I got in a bit of a fight with my boyfriend- he said some hurtful things and I refused to talk to him, basically. Look at how he behaves, not so much what he says. “The former could be a statement describing a feeling he feels in the moment while the latter is something said after giving it some thought,” says Darné. A month is no time at all (unless you're 15).I would also worry about somebody having so much time available that they are free to see me all the time when we've only just met. You can sign in to give your opinion on the answer. He said since he can’t tell me he loves me after 6 months he doesn’t think it goes anywhere. Or will he ever come back . For most people yes...but then what about that whole love at first sight thing. He wrote me this long letter, apologizing, because I refused to speak to him, so he gave it to me, like "Here, if you won't listen, just read this." If he has cheated on you, then it might be a sign that he isn’t in love with you. I felt the same way, but I'm way cooler than him so I didn't blurt it out 8 years later, we've been married for 6 years and have 2 beautiful DDs. Either way that makes you special :). He told me that a friend was telling him that if were unhappy he should leave me to find true love if he truly wants me to be happy. So me and this guy have been seeing each other for about 3 months, maybe a little longer. run run run. or something else?can you talk more about feeling like he's needy, because I think that (and the short time after his divorce) is the key. I asked did u ever love me. None of them ever turned out to be abusive, just - inexplicably in my view - keen.I expect that like SGB says, it was more an expression of "thanks for the shag" or "please shag me," but it was nice at the time and not indicative of any lurking nastiness whatsoever.I think the red flag here is your feelings. He's not ready to say it. Even if he feels like he’s totally in love with you and only you, he will hesitate when it comes to saying these words because either it makes him feel uncomfortable, or he believes that actions speak louder than words. RELATED: 15 Ways Guys Say 'I Love You' Without Ever Saying A Word 1. Said he loves me after one week. I've known him for over a month. I understand you are in a deep confusion and worry.. with one big worry in your mind. A month after that he asked me to go for a drink when he is in my state next, and I very politely declined. Obviously, I'm a cynic no more. and 2 days after the break up he posted a pic with a girl calling her he’s main chick and kinda turned cold but he kept texting me after a couple of months ‘Hi ‘ mind you he did that while still being a don’t care on social media. I feel like he already loves me but he thinks he doesn't . The same happened to me recently. Again, pay attention to his actions afterwards. If both of you said it and meant it, how can it be too soon? He is a really sweet guy and I don’t know if the way I feel will change again. Last week, about 3 months after the last time he messaged he sent me a random text out of the blue. It's a tricky one - you've also flagged that your talks have got "too heavy" already - is he pushing you for info or is he giving too much out himself? He loved what he did know. He didn’t feel the spark. I don't think I've ever been in a relationship where it's taken them much longer than that to declare love. I felt the same way, but I'm way cooler than him so I didn't blurt it out Just because he's not saying it now doesn't mean he'll never say it. Facebook. I think you should acknowledge he has said it but tell him you are not there yet. But I didn't want to hurt his feeling because I do like him. 1. Whatever the situation that has led you to say, he loves me but won’t commit, ... After a year he left me for his ex and i had to move out. Couple months go by he texts me he sorry and loves me and didn’t know why he emailed her cuz he loves me. He didn’t feel anything and he needs to break up with me to find himself as a person. After numerous dates, text messages, phone calls and many kisses he told me he loves him. He has dated a few women after her death & before me but has had no real sparks until me he says. She said she had fallen in love with me after a few weeks and I wasn't ready to say it back. Sometimes I don’t wanna answer his texts or calls. Still have questions? Some guys are just very soppy, as are some women. If you felt the same about him, you would be delighted. If You're Not Saying 'I Love You' After Six Months, Move On. He came to me a month before and said he was sad but wouldn’t say why – I thought because of new life stresses and because he had a bad housing situation. Yesterday my boyfriend told me he loved me, after 2 months of dating. If that wasn't there after a month I'd probably finish the relationship as it would be like going out with my brother or a casual friend. my boyfriend said it to me 2 weeks after we started dating. He hasn’t said the “L” word at all yet. I agree, when you know there's something special going on, you might think "its too soon to say it", but you are unlikely to be freaked by it. He said he didn’t love me. it's only an problem surely if a) you really care for him and you are frightened you'll be hurtb) you don't care for him (yet? My boyfriend and i of 3 years broke up 3 days ago he said he loves me , doesent think he deserves me and that its just easier if we "leave it". its been a month you shouldn't worry if its too soon if it all comes to its worst then just hold back for a while but you should defiantely see this as an oppertunity a guy loves you, make the most of it and hold onto him for as long as you want him around (: goodluck. My boyfriend and I broke up 3 months ago, he said he didn't love me anymore. I am very confused he is dating 3 women right now, and telling me he still is in love with me and thinks about me everyday. Ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out for only a week, and he told me he loves me. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. is it a red flag when a person mentions casually in convo several times that theyre always right? Is it a turnoff to women when a man wants to defer sex until he gets to know her? I didn't believe him but it still hurts like fuck when a few weeks later he decided it was all a mistake and he didn't mean it. He told me he loved me. There have been two occasions when I've had it said to me ... it was too early, but I knew it wasn't a lie. I also discovered many of his huge lies. He contact me. 0 0. Whatever. He told me he wanted to wait to be sure that he truly loves me before he said it. But in general, if you say, “I love you,” before dating for three to six months, you could be mistaking love for something else. My husband has said it to me exactly once, when he was holding our newborn son for the first time. But if you're generally having a good time together then relax and enjoy it. Talk widget showing discussions of the day & trending threads, Subscribe to Mumsnet emails direct to your inbox. If he said he loves you in the midst of experiencing an orgasm or while having breakfast those are entirely two different things. After 6 months I found out that from the beginning of the relationship he has been trying to have sex with other women and that he is a serial cheater. Told me his is inlove with me. For his birthday last month, I signed the card “love”. Don't be the old standby. He told me he is very sexually attracted to me, and i am his dream guy and that he loves the fact i am up for anything – a hike- a trip- chill at home etc. When I was 18, we'd been going out for 3 weeks and he told me he loved me. We had been in the same social circle for about 2 years so he knew some stuff about me, but I wouldn't have said he knew me well. My ex boyfriend has told me he loves me and that he didn’t say it to freak me out, he just wanted to express it. However, I found she was easy to fall out of love too. or is this the end of my love forever?" So I brushed it off and carried on. Mind you, he's fairly newly divorced. But however I read something that has stuck with me: Falling in love can take weeks or even days, but developing a deep and authentic bond takes years. He’s moving to my city in July I will pick him up at the airport. Hi So my ex and dated like back in 2017 and we were like so In love but he got mad n broke up with me. DP professed his love for me very quickly (date 3 I think? Me and this guy have only been talkin a short amount of time and within one week he says he loves me and shortly there after says he wants to marry me hes 26 im 22. hes even told his mom he thinks im the one. I was very surprised but also felt special so I said it back. ! ), and while I was a bit at the time it's now 3 years later and we're getting married. A month after that he asked me to go for a drink when he is in my state next, and I very politely declined. I know he isn't using me for sex, his actions have made it quite clear that he isn't. Turns out he thinks you're the best he can do. At the start he told me he was looking for a long term relationship. He said I love you before we had even started dating and had only known each other for 2 and a half weeks. I don't think it is a massive problem either. I am hurt and he's living his life, I'm assuming. I love him and feel we have a unique connection, but the downside is I feel he is rushing into things. Someone who still claims to be in love after two or three months is more believable than someone who says it for the first time. i'm 50/50 on this one tbh, an ex told me that after 2 weeks or so - v v early shoud have sat up then and said hang on but got swept along. After all, when we enter into a relationship, we commit to each other and that means being monogamous. I still want to be with him and don’t know what to do. Why does he seem more needy than you? I struggled emotionally as he never broke ties with me. We have an amazing relationship and see each other 4- 5 times a week. He is divorced, the other side of divorce, so presumably been on his own for a bit and accepted the divorce? However, do you all think this is a bit too soon? He is also divorced, but his was a 20-year marriage. It's just a simple thing, in passing. Guys usually have a different opinion of loving someone versus being in love than women do. We stated out e-mailing then texting. A few of my friends have even browbeaten me over this theory, citing that they, themselves, weren't able to say the three magic words for over a year, one simply because he'd recently gotten divorced and wanted to take his time. I was very surprised but also felt special so I said it back. BF and I were in lovce within a month, and still going strong 26 months later. After a year we have started talking, he said, he didn’t feel like I trusted him and also didn’t think I would leave when he threw me out. My dad told my mum he loved her after the SECOND date (!!) 17yr old daughter invited boy over while we were away. Follow. He could say it on the very first date or a few months down the dating lane, but he still means it with all his heart and sees you as a long ... you’re entitled to be cautious when a guy says he loves you. He said I guess. My advice yeah you both said it to each other...now wait for about 2-3 months lol when the so called honeymoon stage is over...then see if he feels the same way. He still hasn't said I love you after 6 months? However, love is never uncertain. But the fact that you are worrying about it, wondering if it means something bad, makes me think that you are Just Not That Into Him. We had sex. The same happened to me recently. But it still amazes me how the initial click with someone can turn into a lifetime of powerful love. He's not ready to say it. Should i believe him? He calls me several times a day and we text on and off all day. Here they are, 28 years down the line perfectly happy. I'd say approach with caution, but less because of him saying 'I love you' after a month than him being 3 months out of a divorce. About a year after we were dating him his ex gets enguaged. He said he cares bout me a lot but takes those 3 words really seriously & won't say them till he's 100% sure. I don't think it's necessarily a red flag. After numerous dates, text messages, phone calls and many kisses he told me he loves him. I know that he loves them, but at the same time he hates their behaviour. After 6 months I found out that from the beginning of the relationship he has been trying to have sex with other women and that he is a serial cheater. Yesterday my boyfriend told me he loved me, after 2 months of dating. he helped me to do some readings,and after the readings he made me … I know that I shouldn't have because I don't, and I'm only 15! dp said it after a month (one date one weekend and copious long calls prior/0 and I wasn't worried at all as it felt different. Wish you the best this year”. You can be in love with someone after a month. If You’re Not Saying ‘I Love You’ After Six Months, Move On March 9, 2015 by Mark Radcliffe 25 Comments Mark Radcliffe explains how “good enough” is the enemy of great love. We were on the phone really late, both of us pretty much dozing off and I head him say “I love you.” I asked him to repeat himslef and he said it again. He does talk about me … I know he isn't using me for sex, his actions have made it quite clear that he isn't. Unlike yours my relationship lasted 6 months, and during last 2 months when I had so much stress at work and family illnesses to deal with we were communicating OK and sex was still amazing. We've been together for 5.5 years now...guess he really meant it. This was after we’ve met up and had a few text conversations. By don't question it do you mean you have said "you can't be" and he has said "but I am, I know my own feelings?" Last week, about 3 months after the last time he messaged he sent me a random text out of the blue. answer mine please i need help. He told me not to contact his cell he will give me the new number cause he is being in investigated and he don’t want me to get hurt LIES. However, he's also extremely insecure. Just because he's not saying it now doesn't mean he'll never say it. If he's saying it and trying to restrict your behaviour ie not wanting to go out/see friends or family because you can stay in with him and Be In Love, or if he's starting with the 'If you love me then you'll do what I want' then dump his sorry arse and run. we didn’t contact each other after … For him, they aren’t just words. After a month of online dating, he told me to love me. Now if this is in the past, and you feel like he has truly made an effort since then, then he may love you. I met him the next day. Uh yeah, it's a little too soon. He told me he loved me within a month, and I told him that was crazy since he didn't really know me. This is page 1 of 3 (This thread has 52 messages.). "Now finally, he blocked me will he come back? After all, ... there’s no way he meant what he said.And it really irks me to say things like that when you don’t mean it.Love … I had a relationship with someone that had just left his girlfriend of 10 years. It's quite possible he's just infatuated with the idea of someone and not you entirely. Glad HerHissyness found the list I was searching for - there are plenty of them on Google if you search for Dating Red Flag list - and rapid declaration of love is one. Again, pay attention to … Hope he's the man of your dreams ;). I love him more now than I did 8 years ago, but I did love him 8 years ago. Then when Ed and I started dating, not only was "I love you" said so soon, but after less than a month we knew we were getting married. We have fooled around, but have never slept together. Hey Everyone, So I posted on here a few times before. 04/14/2015 02:45 pm ET Updated Jun 14, 2015 I have a simple theory about the world. After 3 weeks he told me he loves me I said it back. We def broke up after that. Good luck! Thankfully they met again two years later and was married 9 months after that. We were on the phone really late, both of us pretty much dozing off and I head him say “I love you.” I asked him to repeat himslef and he said it again. This is an emergency! He hugged me, we kissed many many times and he said he loves me many times. To tell you the truth, I'm not sure I'm ready for that & I hope he doesn't say it again at this point. While you may be feeling eager to hear your parter confess their love, if it happens too soon, you should be wary. In it, he writes that he's in love with me. Never went out of my way to find out the reason. If a guy loves you, he will continue to court you weeks, months and years after he’s said he loves you. Join Yahoo Answers and get 100 points today. Go slow but I don't think this should end it. Someone who still claims to be in love after two or three months is more believable than someone who says it for the first time. We met at work, and I think it's safe to say that we both love hanging out together. I asked r u still inlove with yur ex/wife. I can usually tell if I'm in love with someone within a month after spending alot of time with them. He always defends me and tells his parents that their behaviour is unacceptable. I eventually said it back a few months later when I really felt it. Im so heartbroken he truly is my bestfriend he said the relationship needs a break first and then he said that its over i dont know why but im holding onto hope do you think im wrong for doing this ? Anonymous. It has been so hard for me to let go, I still think about him everyday and can't understand why this happened. Please help! do women notice if a guy wears or not a condom? “He will do so naturally because he thinks you deserve the world and he’s willing to make all moments of life as significant as possible for you and him,” says certified dating and relationship coach, Celine Sauvet. Too soon I'm sure. I've been talking to a man for a month online and like you, never met yet and he already said he loves me and without discussing things in detail with me, he posted publically that we are in a relationship on his social media. We just hit the 6-mo mark but he still hasn't said how he feels..he already knows I love him (accidentally told him awhile ago). And I love all that affection. Almost 2 months later he came back and said he was struggling to cope with catching feelings. I(18F) have been in a 2 month relationship with a guy(20M) and he recently said I love you. When he went to search it "how to tell someone you love them" was already on Google. 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